Thursday, June 24, 2010

My Definition of Love

I was inspired. SimplyValorie (http://simplyvalorie.blogspot.com/) posted a blog about love. Her personal definiton of love. In the comment section I was going to leave a link to the blog where I wrote about my definition of love. Sadly enough, I could not find one. Mostly because I haven't written one. So after a tedious amount of soul searching, I think I have come up with something along the lines of what I think it is. It wasn't easy.

"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident."

Love is not what you see in the movies. It is not this undeniable love that everyone seems to be searching for. I have convinced myself multiple times that I have been "in love", however, I can't recall if I actually was. Was this just one of my many instances of immaturity? Probably so. So what is love? Everyone has a definition. Everyone has an ideal. But in my experience, God works in funny ways. You might think you know what you want out of life. You might think you know what you want in a partner. Right then and there, God will slap you across the face and lay in front of you someone you don't ever want to part from.

Love is constant touching. You see them across the room and run to them in order to caress their arm. Their hand. Anything.
Love is being together for all the right reasons, because you like them as a person and have no desire to change them.
Loving someone, not despite their flaws, but for them. They are a valuable commodity and no one is perfect. Accept what you can.
Love is working with the person to better themselves.
Love is wanting the best for them, even if that means without you.
Love is giving without wanting anything in return. Love is having fun.
Love is looking at each other and not being able to imagine your life with anyone else.
Love is accepting a person's past without letting it affect your future together, knowing what's done is done, there is nothing that can be changed now.
Love is hearing someone's heart skip a beat when you kiss them.

"Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident."

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